I was at a loss at what to write today and I wanted to do something more than a daily wrap up or a post about the adorable skirt I saw at Modcloth, so I looked into some writing prompt websites and the prompt I clicked on was
“If you could have any three wishes, what would they be?”
I don’t even have to think about this one.
I wouldn’t wish for anything.
I’d let those wishes sit there, unclaimed, in wishland.
I know that sounds weird, but the truth is, there will always be things that we want. No wish will ever really make any of us feel fulfilled. We’ll always want something more. There will always be a relationship we wish we could mend, past actions we wish we could change, money we wish we owned, etc… etc….
And sure, there’s the obvious stuff like “world peace,” but I’m not a big believer in manipulating the universe like that. Stuff like “world peace” is better left to higher powers that are much more informed on the ways of the universe.
Plus, wishes fulfilled never turn out well. How many fairy tales have such morals? When you wish for what you want, it’s never actually what you want, in the end. Most often, the results of these wishes end up twisted and dark.
Have Goals, Not Wishes.
Wishes are passive. I don’t think we’re supposed to live passive lives. We should be active participants in our lives. Seth Godin once said (and I’m paraphrasing here) “Don’t wait for someone to choose you. Choose yourself.”
To me, wishes are all about waiting for someone else to choose you. If you want something, it’s up to you to get it. Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t ask for help – but that’s just it – you have to ask for the help. You can’t just sit around waiting, hoping that help will magically show up.
Goals are active, in theory anyway, they are things we work toward. We participate in goals. We play an active part in making them a reality.
So, the next time someone tells you to make a wish, don’t. Set a goal and then go get it.